What Crayons and Pizza Have to Do With Having the Most Desirable Traits for Dating
Posted: Sunday, September 27, 2009
by Fresna Vee
http://www.onlined8.com
I get asked fairly often by friends and family what the most desirable traits are when you're out there dating. And for a lot of people, the most sought out and desirable traits in other people can be related to something John Mayer, a famous singer and song writer, once said:
"Life is like a box of crayons. Most people are the 8-color boxes, but what you're really looking for are the 64-color boxes with the sharpeners on the back. I fancy myself to be a 64-color box, though I've got a few missing. It's ok though, because I've got some more vibrant colors like periwinkle at my disposal. I have a bit of a problem though in that I can only meet the 8-color boxes. Does anyone else have that problem? I mean there are so many different colors of life, of feeling, of articulation.. so when I meet someone who's an 8-color type.. I'm like, "hey girl, magenta!" and she's like, "oh, you mean purple!" and she goes off on her purple thing, and I'm like, "no - I want magenta!""
You get the point, right?
So how does this relate to finding a girl or a guy who shares those most desirable traits from your own book? It's a lot simpler than the whole idea surrounding this article: When a guy is looking to date a girl, he may be looking for one who can laugh at his jokes, or one that can smile just a certain way. To a lot of women, his jokes might be too corny and will actually turn them off from conversing with him.
But they still might be a technical match and if she hadn't already given up on him after the third corny joke, she might have found something she liked about the guy.
The thing about the phrase 'the most desirable traits' for dating is that as long as you're a human being, you probably already fit 95% of any one person's criterion. So what about the other 5%?
The other 5% is just how well you can match with someone on that first date. Can you show to him or her that you can enjoy that parmesan, alfredo and romano pizza? Can you politely explain how it may or may not be your favorite? The fault for most people when it comes to dating is that they do have those most desirable traits, but they fall flat when it comes to actually using them.
In other words, just chewing a slice of that pizza and forcing a woman to ask, "So, well.. how is it?" and then replying with,"Good," is falling flat. The very purpose of a date, along with scoping out whether or not you have those most desirable traits, is to see what colors you have in your Crayola box, to see what you're missing and which ones are the most vivid. It's not to see whether or not that you can color a picture. It's to see how you would color a picture.
For more on how to use the fact that you do have the most desirable traits when it comes to dating, be sure to check out Online D8's section about the Most Desirable Traits in Men That Women Want.
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Top-level comments on this article: (2 total)Hi Fresna.Great article and well done. "Life is like a box of crayons..." I think i belong to the 8-color box.Thanks for sharing.Best to you.NenitaAh.. Well, sometimes you can make really pretty pictures with just eight colors!- Fresna V.
nice article very well thought, but i think im more of a 48 colour type of guy....in the sense that with 64 colours ill only use about half of them so there superfluous anyway.-Alex M.
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